Discipline and Conflict Resolution

Discipline and Consequences

Consequences depend on the type and severity of behavior, and are determined on a case-by-case consideration. Examples include phone calls to parents, community service, time out of the classroom and suspension.

Conflict Resolution

We focus on helping students develop empathy, impulse control and anger management. In the classroom, teachers use a variety of lessons to help students practice the skills necessary to develop the high level of social skills they need to be successful.

Students are trained to use “I Messages” when there is a conflict with another student.  We encourage families to use the same language at home. Solving problems with words instead of hands is an important skill.

I Message:

I feel __________ when you ___________.
I would like you to _________________.

When a child is feeling angry, we teach:

1. Notice how your body reacts. For example: tense muscles, clenched fists and fast breathing.

2. Notice what you are feeling. For example: annoyed, irritated, hurt and disappointed.

3. To calm down:

  • Try to relax your body.
  • Take five deep breaths.
  • Count to 10 slowly.
  • Walk away for a little while.

4. Don’t blame. Use “I” statements.

5. Listen to the other side.

6. Tell yourself: I can work this out with words.

We also teach children to solve problems together:

1. Describe the problem.

2. Brainstorm solutions.

3. Look at each solution for:

  • Safety
  • Fairness
  • People’s feelings
  • Will it solve the problem?

4. Pick the best solution.

Did it work?  If not, try a different solution.

Children cannot learn if they are worried about a social problem, teasing or bullying. If your child has an ongoing conflict or situation that s/he can not resolve on his/her own, please make sure to tell the teacher or principal. We want every child at Sequoia to know that it is the job of our school staff to assist them in solving problems and that it is always okay to ask for help.